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Post by bottombaby on Jan 16, 2012 17:02:42 GMT -5
I'm slowly realizing that I am isolated and disconnected. As a wanna be party girl turned wife and stay at home mother, my pool of friends is becoming smaller and smaller. I feel disconnected from the few friends that I do have. With some of them, it is my fault. With others, it is their fault. With all of them, much of it stems from the feeling that we are in entirely different life phases. Often times, I feel as though I am above them and look down my nose at them. Equally often, I'm terribly jealous of the seeming freedom and fun that they are having.
This is the internet and you are on a message board, so I am sure that you are in your own way disconnected and disenfranchised. Share your woe with the masses!
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Post by freshmonkey on Jan 16, 2012 17:23:06 GMT -5
I feel this way when I hang out with people who are my own age but still love to be in the middle of drama or haven't matured since they were 18.
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Post by Erniewan on Jan 16, 2012 19:48:15 GMT -5
Wow, I fit in here.
I am one of the most disconnected people I know (I do have a friend though that is so d/c that no one really knows what he's up to, but that's another story). I'm actually a tolerable guy, but I'm the one who stands to the side at get-togethers and just watches rather than socializes, because I'm such an introvert. People say I'm so quiet and mysterious that they think I'm "up to something" or planning something malicious; that makes me kinda sad, because I'm really a nice, well-intentioned guy, I just don't mingle well. I don't hate people and I'm not anti-social (I had an argument with someone about this), I just am out-of-place in large groups and prefer close, small groups of friends with similar interests, even though I don't have any IRL currently. Because of my nature, I am not prone to making new friends, and would rather stay at home than attempt to do so, even though I do enjoy hanging out sometimes. I tend to be loyal but not very communicative, so I have friends from elementary school still, but we rarely get the chance to hang out because they work or live in far-away places. Even my girlfriend is in another country. It's in my nature to avoid people, not because I dislike them or feel that I'm better than them, but because it takes a lot for me to become comfortable and connected, and my reserved nature prevents me from getting to this point, kinda like a Catch-22. I like online forums/chats because it's okay to be disconnected, because you can jump in and out at any time, and not feel pressured to talk. But I still feel the need for someone to hang out with in person, and this is something I do not currently possess.
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Post by BubbleBobble on Jan 17, 2012 21:51:56 GMT -5
I'm about as disconnected as it comes I'm in ernie's boat, I have no IRL friends close to me just went to see a good friend and that's as much human contact as I've had in months (aside from work)
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Post by freshmonkey on Jan 17, 2012 22:03:55 GMT -5
Hey Bobble, lets do lunch tomorrow k?
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Post by bottombaby on Jan 17, 2012 22:32:06 GMT -5
Yeah, Bobble. I'm free tomorrow. Other than getting my car serviced and yanking my kid from schewl.
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Post by BubbleBobble on Jan 17, 2012 22:43:45 GMT -5
chill out guys ok I am not good at real life
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Post by bottombaby on Jan 17, 2012 22:53:50 GMT -5
lol
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Post by Flutterby on Jan 18, 2012 2:47:30 GMT -5
You can always pretend!
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Post by freshmonkey on Jan 18, 2012 10:53:15 GMT -5
No pressure Bobble Someday I will make you hang out with me though
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Post by klatypus on Jan 19, 2012 13:46:23 GMT -5
I too, am aloof, and feel very disconnected with many friends. Although I was never much of a party girl in college I guess because i was a wild child in highschool, so I sorta looked down at my immature classmates and didn't try to make friends, but i was always really nice to everyone in my class because I was lonely and didn't know how to make friends, never have figured that one out. now I am happily engaged, but sometimes I feel like I got too old too fast, I already feel like I am settling down, and I never quit got to experience that independence... but I would rather it be this way with him, than 'free' with fake friends
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